Vaping? Come back to cigarettes mate...

I heard something on the radio this morning that raised an eyebrow. Possibly two, there was no mirror to hand.  

The NHS are considering making vaping available on prescription. Well, I meet a lot of smokers seeking hypnosis to quit smoking. They’ve nearly all tried patches and vaping.  

People are happy with vaping for a while but they nearly always go back to cigarettes. They haven’t addressed the psychological causes of smoking and the secondary gain.  

Vape away, friends. I doubt it will work though.  

Hypnotherapy - How to stop asking questions and start loving yourself.

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What, I wonder, is the point? What is the ultimate, definitive point in being alive?

Perhaps consciousness is an end in itself. There’s no need to ask questions that don’t have answers - it’s a waste looking for specific, definable meaning in a sunset, an argument or a piece of abstract art.

Life is knowing what you want to make you feel good. Life is a series of moments all stretching out in front and behind us. Life is learning to love and be loved.

LATE FRAGMENT by Raymond Carver

And did you get what
you wanted from this life, even so?
I did.
And what did you want?
To call myself beloved, to feel myself
beloved on the earth.

Does hypnotherapy work for people who are late for everything?

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I used to be late for everything. I even took pride in it, like it was an important part of who I was. My friends got tired of picking me up at our agreed time and I'd just be getting in the shower. I'd leave friend sitting in the pub for half an hour waiting for me (pre mobile phones so they had to make do with reading beer mats). I thought it was funny but now I know it was rude. It's not that I had a busy life or anything, I was just bad at managing time. I was bad at respecting other people's time. I was excellent at arsing around.

I was for ever running for trains, apologising to bosses and telling white lies about why I wasn't on time. It caused me stress and cost me money. I refused to set my alarm for twenty minutes earlier. I thought that it was 'just who I am'. 

I changed. I can't remember exactly when. Perhaps it was when I became a professional actor and I was so amazed to be in this job that I couldn't bear to jeopardise it.

Separating my IDENTITY from my BEHAVIOUR was a step towards breaking old habits. Just like admitting that you aren't a smoker, you smoke cigarettes. Knowing that is a step towards quitting. You aren't a late person, you are a person that is often late. 

Changing or deleting a behaviour is much easier than changing your core identity. We get them mixed up sometimes.

Dealing with procrastination - In the bleak mid-winter...

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January is not the happiest month for many. It's cold, it's dark, people are skint and everyone's gone back to work. It's rubbish, basically.

Or is it? It depends on your point of view. I quite like January. Rather than going to a beer garden for a cold beer in the sunshine, I'll choose a dingy pub with a log fire for a pint and a pickled egg.

I've had time indoors lately and I've been glad to get on with a list of jobs that I've been putting off. Procrastinating makes me feel sluggish. I've been writing, printing, recording podcasts, researching and even ironing. I'd rather clean my wheelie bin with a toothbrush than do the ironing usually but I can't wear a wrinkly shirt. I only iron shirts, I'm not crazy. My mother, on the other hand, irons bed sheets, pillowcases, socks...

Motivation - Self Care

I used to be a big procrastinator. I was always late for appointments and it would take three days of terror to find my passport. Living like that now would stress me out. I prefer a little order in middle age. In January, I like to sit quietly now and then and ask myself what I want for the year ahead and what I need to delete from the year gone by. I don't want to carry anything with me that holds me back. I want to be healthier, happier and wiser.

I'll be busy again any day now and my focus will turn out to the world. I'll be glad of my hibernation then. Winter is a time of saving energy and living off the fruits of the summer. Our lives are more cyclical than we think and this time will come round again. What we can do is prepare for it. Perhaps even look forward to it.